I still am a bit naive with all this social media stuff and often shocked by the negative comments some people choose to share. A couple of recent events have made me question why people feel the need to share their opinions when they are going to potentially hurt or upset someone. I find it very hard to comprehend because I would never intentionally hurt anyone, I am very much a ‘Treat others as you would like to be treated’ kinda gal. And pleased to say that all my friends are the same.
But every so often someone comes along who shocks me with a hurtful negative comment. Most of the times it is via the computer – amazing how brave people get when they are behind a screen. B&A Retreats has had all kinds of comments over the years on FB from ‘crap, bollocks, waste of money and even a scam (please note not one of the comments came from anyone who has even met me never mind tried our retreats!)
Why share a comment that is negative? Even if you think it, why do people think it is ok to express it. Why not just let it go? Move on?
I truly believe that negative comments come from people who are very unhappy, people who feel low and sad and rather than spend time trying to improve their lives they want others to feel the same. When we have bad days, weeks, months you have 2 choices you can use your energy to either work on pulling yourself up or dragging others down.
There is a story I often share about crabs…..haha…worried about where I am going with this? Don’t panic. When crabs are captured they are placed in a bucket with no lid. Individually, the crabs could easily escape from the pot, but instead, they grab at each other in a useless competition which prevents any from escaping and ensures their collective demise. Basically its like a ‘If I cant have it neither can you’ mentality. And sadly that is how some people also think.
In business it is often said, you can have the tallest skyscraper in the city by either pulling the skyscrapers of others down or building your own as high as possible.
I know its not easy but any time a negative thought or opinion is thrown your way rather than taking it in and owning it, the best course of action is to throw it back and refuse to keep hold of it (metaphorically speaking) Know it is their problem not yours. No one can make you take it, remember the wonderful quote – “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Think of it like a hot potato (sweet potato of course!) You keep hold of it, it will burn and hurt, refuse to take it and there is no pain.
I got a message recently saying I look like a man- well let me tell you no man could have rocked my party dress like I did on Saturday night! Haha!! I’m not prepared to accept his opinion so it doesn’t faze me.
Stay solid in what you believe, what you think and choose to not associate with others who wish to share a negative opinion. We are choosing to climb out of the bucket ladies and gents and no one is going to stop us :)